As far as sex drive, the sex drive for younger women may be higher than some males, but as they mature other things become more important for females. Males will always have a high sex drive, biologically speaking they are looking to spread their genes as far and wide as possible to be successful; women though become vulnerable after successful coupling thus will want to attach themselves to a single person for protection, after which sexuality becomes a secondary concern, so high sexuality in men is dangerous to them.
This is of course not every individual, the Pareto principle applies though and on average men will have higher sex drives and the highest drive in male will be significantly more aggressive than the highest female, which will still be more aggressive than the average male.
I do think that is partially why we have invented a diversity in sexual practice, it can allow more intellectually stimulating practice without boring the male, thereby giving the female more chances to “keep” the male and if the fun does spread to other mates after reproduction, less likely to shoot the load in the right target so-to-speak.